End of a relationship....

I have been asked by many friends and associates, co-workers and acquaintances, what happened? What happened to end my relationship with my ex? I have mostly not talked about it, and/or gave partial responses. But, after 6 months, I think it's time. Than, people can stop wondering for the most part.

Let me start by saying that it was her decision to end things. Her feelings had changed too much from the start to the end for her to continue. She had lost her feelings for me for many months now. A lot had to do with how different we both were. We had different interests and the way we spent our time together was not the way she envisioned. I wasn't able to accommodate her needs and wants in life. She was in a different place in her life than I was. My relationship with her most important aspect in life, her son, was not where it should be, in her eyes. Her family's disapproval of me did not help things along, as she is close with her family. Communication and faith in one another are two key elements in the relationship. We didnt have it. I believe all this lead to her decision.

Where did I stand? I believe it takes two to make a relationship, and two to break one. She was correct in many ways, yet wrong in others. I take my share of the blame, as you know how difficult I can be sometimes...hahahah. However, I was in it for the long haul. I believe many things could have been worked on and improved upon. Some things had to be the way they were, and be accepted. I did not see it coming at the time that she wanted out. I probably should have. Like we all say, hindsight is 20/20. The clues were out there, but I did not pick up on them. I see them now. Its good that she got out since she wasn't totally happy. Better now than years down the road. The ones that know me know that I truly cared for her. Sometimes I wonder if her feelings for me were ever true. But only she can answer that. The one thing I wished from her was that she had faith in me. She never had that in our relationship. Nevertheless, I would not have changed being in this relationship.

It was probably for the best. She was smart to end it. We actually parted on very good terms. It wasnt bitter. Noone cheated on the other ( the most asked question), there was no third party involved, and it wasnt messy. Once and awhile, we talk. How much longer, I dont know. She has since moved on and is happy again. I will get there to, its just a longer journey on the path for me. People always say time heals all wounds. Dont get me wrong, I am genuinely fine and ok, considering I have seen people worse off than me. We have all been there, so its no different for me. Its times like these that you are glad to have the big 3 F's, family, friends, and your faith. Your real friends become more visible. You get to re-connect with some that you have lost touch with (like Lee & Mon). I wish her the best. For me, the journey continues, and the world is my oyster!! Hopefully that answers your many questions, and you can all stop wandering and worrying!!