Videos.... Woman toys...... Hair in eggs...... Older Men.... Stroking....Sisters...Spices... Sports Bra.....
What do all these have in common???....
These things are amongst the very thing I am going to discuss today while discussing “The Process of Meeting New People”....
We all endure the circle of life... from childhood, to the school years, the college years, the 20’s, and beyond...some shorter, some longer.... we all go through these stages with different degrees of friendship and with different groups and individuals.... there are some of us that have friends that we hang with and known our entire life...some go thru a few stages with the same friends..... but generally, we are always meeting new groups of people....
Like my goals and values, I have few friends I have met in each stage that have continue to be my friends to this day.... but as a whole, I lost all contact with my friends from childhood, high school, and the college years.... in fact, if it wasn’t for FB, i prob wouldn’t know anything about these former friends, or where they are..... to replace these people, you have to meet new friends each time.... Meeting new people for me, is always a scary process... being shy for the most part, you always worry about not being accepted or given the chance to be accepted and to see who you really are...lot of this for me was what I endured by my peers while growing up....... we all have flaws and it is these flaws that we don’t want others to see... if they are seen, we don’t want others to use them against you..... mind you, I am less bothered by what new people think of me now than I was in my earlier years, but that is another story.....
That brings me to my Chinese New Year Supper this past Sunday.... I was gratefully invited by Kim to have supper with her and 9 of her friends at Ho Won for a 12 course meal...... after that, we headed to BBT at Dessert house.... so in these three hours, you get to listen into many topics of conversation..... it is always interesting to see how pple interact with each other in a group setting amongst friends who hang and known each other awhile.... to listen to the topics, the personalities involved, and to see where these topics are taken, and the reaction of it all.... let me start by saying that no matter what, it was a hilarious night.... I am not one to judge, esp since I don’t know everyone well enough.... but the topics were interesting... good and/or bad.... what I listed above were some of the topics that we touched on...... it may start off simple enough, but always lead astray to areas that could be funny, bizarre, wild, scary, and interesting....areas that normal conversation never lead to, or are touched..... but somehow, these make their way into conversations amongst a close, and well known to each other, group of friends.... we never talk about it with co-workers, parents, acquaintances, or siblings.... not even in small groups..... but get a bunch of good friends together, nothing is off limits.....
Now for the topics....as far as a guy asking others to see vids of himself is initially very creepy and awkward, esp when telling new pple.... heck, I felt awkward.... guys would punch other guys for these kind of comments.... best to not comment..... in the end, it was harmless and all, but when first brought to the table, I wanted to move away from the table, and this guy...hahahaha.... dude is harmless, but strange things were brought up....
Woman toys??.....it is weird to have this conversation amongst men and woman... not that I am bothered by it...heck, who wouldn’t be interested in.... but to hear guys and girls talk about it, is weird.... once again, as the new guy, I just listened and hope to not look like a perve or something...... hair in eggs??...sick!!...hahaah...dont even want to think about that...still funny to hear when others talk about it, though....... Older men???.....not my area of expertise.... I will leave it to Nancey, who said it all on her blog..... me?? I like them big, small, old, young, whites and whites some more...hahaahha.... Stroking in the pool??.... how this conversation lasted as long as it did is beyond me..... it is a non-issue, if you think about it... cant be done!!!!..... sisters??... siblings should be off limits...sorry!!!... I personally have no probs talking about sisters and all that stuff.... but if one of the siblings is present, off limits..... nobody wants to talk about their siblings and their dating situation or their personal likes and dislikes that are sexual in nature....
Spices??? Cinammon??... once again,...fascinating topic.. however, talking about this around girls in an open conversation in a group is awkward.... but very informative.... the conflict within...hahaahh......i am used to talking about these kind of topics on a one to one basis with other girls.....or even a bunch of guys being pigs... but a new group of pple with guys and girls??...awkward!!!!!!..... sports bra??? Sorry, should not be brought up around girls unless they bring it up first..... there were other topics discussed, but you get the jist of it all.....
In the end, I am game for anything..... it just around new pple is awkward...... and certain things should be left off da table, but remain interesting... this is the dynamic in a group, made more compelling and interesting if everyone there is single, or does not have their spouse/significant other around... lets face it, we are all different when we are with our other half or without... not good or bad, but we are allow to be and speak more freely, openly, and willingly.... that is just how it goes.... even for me... without my other half, I am lot more crazier and all....plus, you don’t worry about offending your other half, or even another person’s other half...... that is why this night was so funny and interesting... single pple talking freely about everything, and having a good, in many cases hilarious, laugh and good time..... no worries or anything..... I haven’t had this kind of laugh since first meeting up with my group of friends in my early 20’s... before we all got hitched, and than having kids,...... boys being boys, girls being girls, no holds barred...couples talk about different things....families talk about different things...... nothing like singles hanging out, or just a bunch of boys hanging out....so much trouble we can get into and talk about.........it will be interesting to see if, and when, they will occur again....
